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Affects of Pornography Pornography is often viewed as a harmless activity. Not true! Today’s pornography is no longer a bit of full-frontal nudity and some bumping and grinding. The stuff that used to be illegal, cruelty, degradation and humiliation of women through close-ups of penetration, ejaculation and masturbation are now legal. Pornography doesn’t create a desire to be close, it destroys intimacy in a marriage. Also, pornography greatly degrades women. Furthermore, a subject that may often be overlooked, is the danger and sometimes psychological affects pornography has on the ‘misguided participants’. In many aspects, pornography has several negative affects in American culture. Pornography can be harmful to a marriage. It creates unrealistic demands about how much sex a healthy relationship may have, specific sexual acts that are expected to be performed, and how a woman is supposed to respond to sexual actions, to name just a few. Real life is quite often different as to what is represented in the fake world of pornography. And when a husband demands that reality fulfills his fantasy, sex becomes not as good for him and degrading to his wife. In the end, both feel awkward, less interested in sex with each other, and sometimes angry. Many men who watch pornography compare their wives to what they have seen. And face it, no wife can live up to the image pornography brings into her husbands mind. One wife said, "Although I was careful with my clothes and figure, I found that my husband was increasingly critical of the way I looked. . . . I wasn't attractive enough to compete with eternally young, surgically altered models. . . . In the end, he lost all interest in me as a sexual partner. This had a devastating impact on my view of my worth as a woman. It created such despair in me that I began to let my appearance go." (Russell, Diana p. 23). When a man is married and becomes addicted to pornography his fantasies become more explicit, more bizarre and more touched with violence to achieve any level of excitement with his wife. Since images alone are not enough, desire to act out the fantasies becomes more powerful. Sex between a man and a woman who are married is sometimes looked at as a gift from God that should be given our respect.
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