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Self-Esteem: Understanding the Concept Whether people know it or not, everyone has a self-esteem, but some have better grasps on it than others do. Most people's self-esteem judgments are based on what they value, their beliefs or interests, and the attitudes that they have (Beane, 1993, p. 6). Therefore it is impossible to escape the notion that someone doesn't have a self-esteem. It is whatever they make it out to be, but not only do they choose their own self-esteem, but others have a big part in deciding it as well. I have two friends who are totally different in every aspect, especially their self-esteem. My one friend Karis has a high self-esteem; she gets good grades, is the star of the volleyball team, and has loving parents. Davina on the other hand, has a low self-esteem. She's not as bright a student as she wants to be, nor does she play any sports, or have loving parents. Her mother and father divorced a few years back, and Davina has been forgotten ever since. She lived at her best freinds house for a few years to finish schooling, as her father took off with her little sisters and her mother moved away to start a new family. Since her abandonment, Davina hasn't been the same. She is afraid to speak in class, always scared that others will make fun of her. Her grades used to be good, but now she has no confidence that she can pass the tests. Gym is a nightmare as Davina is reluctant to wear shorts, always professing that she is to fat. She will only sit with her friend! s at lunch, to frightened to go out of her way and make new friends, and she never smiles.
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